When reflecting on the lessons that have shaped my life, my dad, Dr. James Harding, stands out as one of my greatest influences. His wisdom, faith and leadership have profoundly impacted me—as a retired pastor, former Air Force veteran, widower, and as a father and grandfather. I recently sat down with him to reflect on his life experiences and the key lessons that have shaped both his life and, consequently, the lives of me and our family.

1. The Importance of Family Over Work

In reflecting on his own upbringing, my dad shared, "My father loved me, but he wasn’t always there. He was a workaholic and traveled a lot for his job. I didn’t want to make the same mistake. Family has to come first." This lesson has had a lasting impact on how my dad prioritized his family while balancing his demanding career in ministry. 

Balance work with the people you love.

2. Love and Care for People

"My dad’s deep love for people left a lasting impression on me," my dad shared. "He had a genuine passion for helping others, and it shaped how I approach life. I’ve always made it a point to carry that forward, caring for those around me, no matter how busy things get."

Prioritize caring for those around you, even during the busiest times.

3. The Power of Encouragement

One transformative experience for my dad was his encounter with a professor named Dr. Bobby Derryberry. "I wasn’t a good student, but Dr. Derryberry believed in me. His confidence sparked a change in me, and I decided to try harder."

Encouragement can change someone’s life. It’s important to believe in others.

4. Clarity in God’s Will

One of my dad’s favorite quotes is “God isn’t the author of confusion; He’s the author of clarity.” He has taught me that when we seek God’s will sincerely, He will give us clear direction. This principle has helped me through uncertain times, reminding me that clarity comes when we walk closely with God.

5. Embracing Life’s Challenges with Faith

My dad faced a life-altering challenge when he had a heart attack at 61, the same age his father passed away. Looking back on such a pivotal experience, my dad said, "I felt blessed, not lucky, because God gave me a new lease on life."

Embrace gratitude and see challenges as opportunities to grow and serve others.

6. Advice for Fathers

When I asked my dad for advice to share with other fathers, he said:

1. Live for the Lord – "Your faith needs to be more than just words; it should be your way of life."

2. Love your wife – "The love between parents builds a strong foundation for the whole family. The greatest gift you can give your children is to love their mother."

3. Lead your children – "Be the parent. Don’t let your children lead the home. Lead with wisdom, even when it’s hard."

These principles continue to guide me in raising my own children, ensuring I lead them with purpose and love.

7. Final Words of Wisdom

When reflecting on his younger self, my dad shared, "I would tell myself to work on relationships and play less. I spent too much time focused on fun and not enough on building meaningful connections."

This reminder has been important for me as I navigate relationships and priorities in my own life.

As I reflect on my dad’s wisdom, I’m reminded of how much of his life has influenced my own—and grateful how his example continues to guide me today. These lessons on faith, family, service and leadership are more than just words; they are principles I strive to live by and pass on to my own children. Life is a journey, and the lessons we learn along the way are what make us who we are. 

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